Saturday, December 26, 2009

This Is It

This Is It is amazing. If you're on vacation and you want to watch something entertaining and truly heart felt...this is it! Michael is a genius, & icon in so many ways. This practice was enduring and really made you think, if Michael at 50 could work so hard, why then do so many entertainers lack energy when they're performing..AMA's this year is just one example? Check that out for yourself if you missed it.






One of my favorite moments
is Criminal and Billie Jean which happens to be one of the last songs he performs. These two segments really showcase him and his loving heart. After watching this I realize what an extraordinary person Mike was and how mankind lost a valuable assest and caring person. And on another note, I advice entertainers & professionals in any field to watch this movie and have wishful hopes to work at his level. I encourage myself and others to step your work ethic up and go after whatever it is that you want in life. Good luck & God bless King Michael and his family. Everybody enjoy this vacay, then its back to work.


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Monday, December 21, 2009

Top Xmas Gifts on a Budget

This holiday season has posed many with the question of can I afford Xmas. You can but always keep in mind that's not what Xmas is about. Yes it is about celebrating the birth of Jesus but in doing so it is about giving and being with people you care about and showing them that you care. If you have some extra funds here are a few gift ideas that won't put a huge hole in your pocket, but maybe they will...who knows.

1. Steamer. So, many people need to steam their clothes and their priced between $24-$30

2. Running shoes. These can encourage someone you care about to work out. $29-$100

3. MP3 Player

4. eharmony trial for someone who is lonely or hasn't dated in years $19-$29

5. A Great Book. Encourage people to read, please

Just a thought, perhaps one of these ideas will work for your situation.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Stay Grounded & In Touch


There are a number of things we do daily but sometimes finding time to stay grounded is difficult. However, it is more evident than ever that we need to take time to tell the people who mean the most to us that we care. We need to take time for pampering and most important take time for oneself. Even if we're in a recession there are still things that bring our heads out of the clouds and grounded back on earth. Check out the list of things we all should consider that may help with self-confidence or for those 'just because' moments!

1. Get the brows: threaded (my fav), waxed or tweezed. This will boost your confidence immediately

2. When was the last time you wrote a letter to a friend or family member? Send out holiday cards or JB cards. Writing a letter can be therapeutic and a form of expression...get with it!

3. Cook dinner for someone other than yourself, who cares, cook for two. Just take time to make something good, even if your not a top notch chef.

4. Set some goals for yourself, yearly, monthly, daily, etc.

5. Try something new: rock climbing, ice skating, dinner @ a new restaurant, shop at a new store, try Twitter, polish your nails a different color, learn another language, paint, whatever you do just get to it!

Even if none of the suggestions sound like something you would want to do give it a try. Good Luck!

I Can't Believe Brittany Murphy is Gone


It came without notice. Brittany blessed us all with her contagious smile in Clueless. She has appeared in countless movies. Her charm has captivated us all. It's easy to adore the bubbly star and today we had to say good bye because she is no longer with us. She died this morning from cardiac arrest in her Los Angeles home. It's very sad to say good bye but, she will be missed. http://www.dailyfill.com/Brittany-Murphy-Dies-At-Age-32-44909/

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

3 Months


Three months means a ton to an array of people. It could be the amount of months one has been sober, the time before you depart to that amazing vacation, or the time since someone has left your life. For me it marks the end or the beginning of a relationship.
The first three months are spent getting to know each other. You try to visualize yourself with your mate. You get used to each others likes and dislikes. The whole time you're trying to impress them, get to know their friends, get a feel for their schedules and most often seeing if the two of you have a future together. Three months marks a point for evaluation and...lets not forget an anniversary(gifts, dinner, and dessert :).

If you're approaching your three month point here are some things to consider looking at closer.

1.Does your mate Show you they care? As in, go out of their way to bring happiness to your life?
2.Do you spend quality time together?
3.Are you invited to events with your mate and their family/friends?
4.Have you and your mate had an argument/disagreement? (if not, that's not healthy)
5.Are you HAPPY? (deal breaker)
6.Is there chemistry? (sexual attraction, butterflies, anxiousness, googly eyes, or plain interest)
7.Do the both of you want a similar future? (i.e. kids, marriage, travel, careers, rich, fashion)
8.Do they bring out positivity or something else in your personality?

Many times we as humans ignore the signs that the relationship is a flop, just like some movies. Why continue to invest in a relationship where their stock is worthless? Take full advantage of three months, as a point where the both of you can be mature adults and either celebrate the occasion or depart on reasonable terms. Most wait until things sprawl out of control and people get hurt. That is painful and unnecessary.
Thank goodness we have a gift it's a small voice in us all called, "Intuition," or common sense. Either way I wish you a Happy Anniversary!

Monday, October 12, 2009

GO FOR IT

Shall it be reiterated, the American economy is in turmoil and the unemployment rates have increased? Anyone who has graduated in the past year or planning to has a lot of decisions to make. There are no longer visible entry level positions, and any internships available, are mainly for school credit. It's as if the industries are closing their doors to the many qualified young adults. Many college graduates are opting to further their education and seek Master's or other higher degrees, but for those who don't, what should they do?

Its easy to get down on yourself and loathe in self-pity parties. Questions kick in, whether or not your doing something meaningful with your life. Questions that either bring you back on track or bring you down in spirits. However, the more challenging part is to maintain optimism and get on the path you desire. Go after whatever it is you desire whether or not you parents agree with you dreams. As adults we forget how to dream BIG and make those thoughts come true. And, in our everyday lives, we often forget to appreciate the moment we are in. For example, if your working at a job and not a career, you have an okay social life and your young, healthy and vibrant...you have the freedom you may not always have when consumed with your career. I was always told one of the hardest things in life is to maintain that balance with you career, social life (which includes family, friends, and LOVE relationships), and health. Usually, one of them is off balance, but inevitably it keeps us all on our toes.

Believe in yourself, first off. Our economy may be temporary in a recession but we don't have to be. This is the time to ignite that passion for things we enjoy and get to it. Spend more of your free time with family and friends. Partake in Bar B Q's and other savvy events. Prepare dinner and engage in meaningful conversation.

Don't be side-tracked, by misery, discouragement and negativity. When the economy folds, one can wither take advantage, like the wealthier individuals and invest, purchase and sale both real-estate and stock; or open a business and become an entrepreneur. Whatever ideas you've been hovering inside, release them and capitalize off them.

Change shouldn't be, "scary," but challenging and embrace an opportunity to explore careers, education, and yourself. Often we share our ideas with family and friends who manage to shoot them down, not primarily because they don't support us but they aren't risk takers. Naturally, man-kind gets comfortable in their lives and decrease the need to both have adversity and create it.

Why be like everyone else swimming in grief and disbelief. Seize a time to walk your own path, try something else, go after a goal that you believe in. Some people may not have jobs but many are still employed. There is a career out there for you too!

My advice is to start a club or support group, get involved in your community. Do volunteer work to keep your mind stimulated. Who knows a position may open up in the non-profit sector or it can serve as a experience on your resume. Keep a journal during the period of transition; it could be utilized as a tool for others in the future or a reminder for yourself when this moment, in your life, has passed.


Friday, June 26, 2009

The Month of Change


Change is inevitable. In fact, everything changes in some way, shape or form. the month of June has been full of ever changing and developing situations for the masses. Yet, if change is nonnegotiable why do so many of us oppose it?

I am no exception to the rule, and change has met with me many times this month. Many of my friends and associates have expeirenced vast alterations in their very structured and secure lives. Many have had to cope with the death of a loved one. It's always a heart breaker to say good bye to a person who brings happiness to you, or an individual who has helped shape your life and your outlook on it but, it is suitably a part of life.

Although, all changes aren't downers, many result in a sense of thought. Reflection is key and a natural process when things gravitate towards unfamiliar territory. It becomes a matter of, where do you go from there? Unfortunately, one can't control most adversity but most can retrieve the benefits when adapting to reconstruction of ones comfort and familiarity. For instance, if you're loved one insist on more time apart, and it catches you off gaurd why waste energy getting mad? Recognize the shift, and allow yourself to adjust, perhaps you're now available time can be well spent with a friend or simply by yourself. The universe has its ways of sending messages, and often one door closes and another will open up.

Many Americans have lost their jobs, taken pay cuts or experienced a lay-off. As a reslut, they have to resume life with substantially less disposable income. Many of the activities, habits and hobbies are put on hold and a lifestyle transoformation is in store. As we become a more environmentally concious society, there is a need for change, becuase we should recycle more, carpool to certain places, trade clothing with friends etc., call our parents, wirte thank you notes, exercise, relax, cook, enjoy others company, write, reflect, travel, sleep and decrease our carbon footprints. In an effort to adjust to our new lives maybe we'll find more time to spend with loved ones, friends and family. The sudden changes could bring us closer to simplier lives and a more focused attempt at living the way we always dreamt. Anything that ensures thought and question is essential for prosperity and bliss. There may possibly come a day when people give gifts, not based on monetary value, but simply from the heart. Since, we are all human without question we will be affected change and that is exactly what makes up special, that we can acclimate.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Buying A Car? Be More Prepared

I recently purchased my first vehicle on my very own. What a liberating experience yet, intensely stressful. And still, after the most prolonged three days in my life, I bought a used car, that screamed Ashleigh! It spoke to me, as though we had a connection immediately. After I test drove it I knew it was for me. That, however, was merely the beginning of the journey in shopping for a new ride. While I went through the process of buying a car I kept a journal, that will hopefully outline the major items in purchasing your future car.

Steps

I. Before you visit any car lot, decide if you want a sedan, coupe, or truck etc. This will narrow your search. The more you are aware of what you want the more clear and concise your decision will be in the future. Not to mention manuals are cheaper so don't count them out if you can.

II. How much are you putting down? My goodness, this step is so necessary. In this economically challenged period, not only is your down payment you negotiating stick but it is also a necessity at many dealerships. Cash is the language to speak especially for those shoppers who don't have the highest credit score or haven't been on the job for more than a year. You may need a co-signer, good luck with that. I was unable to obtain one and I have a mid-sized family.

III. Obtain your credit report. Have an idea if your credit is bad, fair, average, good, or great!. By obtaining your credit score before they do, will ensure time to fix any unwanted or unknown activity on your report. Yes, the sales person will run it once you have chosen a car but at least you will be aware of why they give you the monthly payment they offer. Don't give them permission to run your credit until, you're 99.99% sure that's the car you want for at least, the next 3 years.

IV. Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate. Use all the resources available, as a consumer. Look in your daily newspaper for local deals. Go online and explore the world wide web. Many prices online are immensely lower than on the lot. Simply print that deal out, and take it in with you, or call in to speak with their Internet sale department. TEST DRIVE your desired vehicle too. Determine if you can comfortably drive it, safety and my favorite gas mileage. (check the engine, knobs, oil, mileage (compare to Kelly blue book), wheels, stereo, wipers and anything else you want to ensure is working properly, especially if buying used. Once you have decided on the car you want, immediately visit the Kelly blue book website. Then you'll know an estimate of what the car is worth. The more knowledge you have about your future purchase the better deal you can achieve. Oh and if the car is used, obtain a Carfax report. The $15 you spend on it will determine if your car is a lemon and if its not you can save this for the future should you want to sale it.

V. You're half way to driving your new shiny new automobile!!! The sweet, reputable sales associate is most likely giving you a quote on your monthly payment, if you chose to finance, or their asking price if you are buying in full. Either way, say,"NO," politely to the first offer. Trust me, no matter how great it sounds or doesn't, say no. They will make adjustments and you can decide from there if that works for you. Two rules of conduct, be polite and optimistic, furthermore, have an adequate meal in your stomach too.

VI. Once you have sealed the deal explain to them you want a copy of all the papers you sign. Count them! Please don't rely on them to do this or you will be missing documents.

VII. Right about now, nerves are shot, and patience is limited so again drink plenty of fluids and eat. This is the step I didn't abide by at all. I forgot to eat and wasn't drinking enough water because I was nervous and on edge. Nevertheless, be better than me and don't repeat my mistakes. Pretty much, all that is left is to acquire insurance asap, but if you have time shop around ahead of time to get quotes. Depending on your purchase your insurance may have to be full or partial coverage. Ask if there are discounts, and explain your situation. The rules from step five still apply too.

VIII. Finally, be happy you did it! Pat yourself on the back and if you have the funds make an appointment for a massage. You deserve it. Oh don't forget to get organized while your at it, so you don't miss payments and stay on top of your added responsibility (online banking a plus).

Monday, June 15, 2009

Are You Drinking Hatorade?

Hatorade: a figurative drink that fuels individuals selfish behavior also known as "hater," activity.

An epidemic has occurred where more people now than ever are drinking, "Hatorade." The venues are limitless, at the workplace, at school, on vacations, while at the airport, and in many peoples homes.

When you see someone succeed, does that evoke anger? If your best friend gets a brand new car and hot boyfriend, are you suddenly jealous? Or how about you get a promotion or an award at work, do you feel like your co-workers aren't supportive? Do they give you agitated looks? Many of our friends, associates and acquaintances are hating in high volumes. Others success has become their entertainment and business. Unfortunately, they are unable to genuinely be happy for anyone other than their selves, with out questing and showing sign of envy.

Of course, many feel this description isn't relative to them however, here are a list of signs you've been drinking hatorade.

-A peer is doing well in some area of expertise. "You," go out of your way, not to congratulate them, but to clarify what they are doing and the means to which they obtain their success.

-Your face tightens up when anyone wins something that you didn't.

-You gossip to others about people who are doing better than yourself.

-You spend less than 25% of your social time talking about yourself and your achievements etc.

-You are always concerned with every ones life challenges, obstacles and drama. Therefore, you manifest in their problems and spread their issues like magazines.

Don't be embarrassed if you answered yes to some or all of these symptoms. It simply means, as mother use to tell me, you need to get a life. You're so wrapped up in others you're actually inhibiting your own success and prosperity. Don't be distraught because your neighbor has something you don't. It should be motivation to work harder to obtain the life and things you truly want. The more you show support, the more you'll have that positive reinforcement when you need it. Life is too short and unexpected to spend it hating, instead go out into the world and start congratulating. Focus on your own goals and try to achieve them. Have a plan, and try to stick to it. Finally, build you confidence, most hating is a result of low self-esteem.